January 16, 2010

Looking For Acceptance In All The Wrong Places

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It appears that I may have stumbled on a theme for this month which I find quite fitting. And I can’t think of a better theme to choose for the first month of any year than acceptance.

Accepting oneself and accepting others.

When Doug Flutie went on Oprah and spoke of his son’s autism, folks just scratched their heads because, at that time, autism wasn’t a household name.

Years later, when Jenny McCarthy came forward and spoke about her son’s autism… people rejoiced to see that it wasn’t just the “regular folk” whose lives had been touched by it.

Folks got even loopier when Holly Robinson Peete AND Toni Braxton came forward and shared their stories.

And then our hearts wept for The Travoltas.

But it would seem that too many people look to celebrities as a model for how they should be living their own lives. Why look to them for acceptance?

And what happens when that bubble is suddenly popped? Where do you go when one minute you thought you were “in” their little circle, and the next minute, well, you’re so not?

Such is the case for the members of IndigoMoms.com (a now debunked website).

Now, I’ll admit when I first heard the words, “Indigo” “Crystal” or “Rainbow”, I judged. Oh, did I ever. I thought to myself, or I may have actually spoken the words out loud, “Now, THAT’S some crazy stuff right there!!!!!”

At the time, it was so Twilight Zone™ to me, and I was even more dumbfounded every time I came across the countless sites, like the one below, that “explained” why children were coming in the way they were and in such great numbers…

… the Indigo/Crystal phenomenon is the next step in our evolution as a human species. We are all, in some way, becoming more like the Indigo and Crystal people. They are here to show us the way, and so the information can be applied more generally to all of us as we make the transition to the next stage of our growth and evolution. {Source: The Star Child}

Although, I’ve had a lot, and I mean A LOT, of time to learn more about this phenomenon, every now and then (much like a blue moon), I still wonder what the IndigoMoms gang has been up to now that Jenny is no longer associating herself with them.

After all, you can’t go around rallying for healthier vaccines while hanging out with “star people”. I mean, really… what would people think? 😉

Believe me, I am so not losing sleep over this, but I am talking about acceptance.

Being who you are. Following your own heart. Trusting your own guidance. Telling folks to “K your A” if they don’t approve of YOUR decisions.

Well, IndigoMoms.com had 222 registered forum members; looks like Jenny had quite a few people who wanted to be in her circle. What I liked most about the site’s archived pages, and based on the following tidbits, is that Jenny appeared to be staying true to herself.

April 30, 2006 7:30 PM:
For the past year I have so badly wanted to connect with other moms who share the same interests as I do and chat with them on a monthly basis. Now, the first of the month I get to do just that with YOU! This is the whole reason I started Indigomoms.com. We can give advice to one another and tell stories that will enlighten and educate us. I will have guests that will join me and give tips on organic cooking, past life experiences, angel therapy and other cool stuff I LOVE talking about. I hope you join me because I’ll feel pretty stupid sitting here all by myself. LOL

See Ya Soon!

Jenny McCarthy

Or this little diddy sent to her new BFFs.

September 9, 2007 8:03 AM:
Hey girls,
I have just come across this dvd called The Secret. It is not a movie. Its gurus talking about The law of attraction and It was so incredible that I bought fifty copies and have sent them to everyone I know. Its starts off cheezy but thats just the opening. You have to order it and lets all talk about it because it has changed everyones life who has seen it. I cant wait to talk about it. go get it!

Love Jenny

Or this rather interesting interview she did with Dr. Doreen Virtue… who’s written a couple books that I’ve enjoyed reading! {Whoops… now there went a serious decline in MY “fan” base. 😉 Oh well!}

Unfortunately, social acceptance oftentimes comes with a very heavy price tag. If often entails folks giving up many of the things (i.e. ideals, hobbies, etc.) they love most.

And it often places folks in a place of living from fear…. all because society says you’re an individual, but you can’t be yourself.

Now, I ask… is this really the legacy we want to leave to our children?

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