Many people carry within them a feeling of dissatisfaction, frustration or smoldering anger and resentment at their misfortunes in life. They feel as if they have been dealt a poor hand and bemoan the unfairness of life. Others seem to live life in a state of comfortable equilibrium and harmony despite their “lot”. The former find it hard to understand how another can shrug their shoulders and be so accepting of bad luck. And those who have a “sunny disposition” wonder why everyone cannot be happy and more easygoing about misfortune.
I was chatting to someone the other day who said that she and her husband were going their separate ways. I was amazed as they seemed to be the perfect couple. Outside pressures had become too much for her husband and he felt he could no longer cope. I won’t go into further detail here as it is not relevant. This particular lady had a wonderful way in which to look at her predicament; she said that she felt lucky for the years which they had spent together, that she appreciated that each were on their own path and that it was now time to part and grow in different ways. She loved him and wished him luck and happiness in everything he did. She looked forward to her own growth, development and learning as well.
Would the world not be a nicer place if everyone parted on such good terms, and with such a positive outlook? It would certainly be less emotionally traumatic for the characters involved.
At the end of the day each person has their own unique outlook on life. We are born with a tendency to a particular temperament, but this does not mean that we cannot adapt and change. Experience also plays a part in how we grow and develop and moulds the way in which we learn to cope, or not, as the case may be. Temperament, genetic coding and experiences together form the basis of our outlook on life. Temperament and generic coding we are born with and so have to accept that there is little we can do to change in these departments…although temperament can, and is, tempered by experience.
This leaves us with experience. Some may argue that there is very little we can do to change these, but I would argue that this could not be further from the truth. I would say that we do in fact, CREATE our own experiences, through our beliefs and expectations and the choices we make as a result of these preconceived and often subconscious ideas.
Returning to the lady whom I mentioned before, she is at this very moment creating her experiences, she is consciously planning to learn and grow and live life to the full. She has made the choice to let her husband go with love and to open her own life up to whatever opportunities present themselves to her. She has decided to love and grow instead of hate and retract.
So many people restrict themselves by their own thoughts, beliefs, expectations and choices. This lady could have chosen to lash out, to bemoan her fate, to hate her husband. But what good would this do? It would make her husband’s life uncomfortable, but not nearly as uncomfortable as her own life would be. The impact on her would be restricting and limiting to say the very least. To be consumed with sadness or hate effectively closes your mind to any positive opportunities which may occur – you would not even notice them. Because whatever you focus upon you attract into your reality. If you focus on sadness, you get sadness. If you focus on hate, you get hatred.
Conversely, if you focus on happiness and love, this is what you get. Sometimes your thoughts and beliefs can be deep rooted, but even so, you can choose to change them. Hypnosis downloads are a fantastic way in which to make such change easier and quicker. You can get a free hypnosis download from my website and try it for yourself.
You can now discover the secret of happiness for yourself.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
With a degree in psychology and qualifications in hypnotherapy, NLP and sports psychology, Roseanna Leaton is one of the leading practitioners of self-improvement. You can get a free hypnosis download and peruse her extensive library of hypnosis downloads for motivation, self improvement and success.
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